Have you ever wondered if your other half is gay? Well, most of us would probably answer “no,” but for those who have, it’s a horrible dilemma. Do you risk it all and ask him, or keep quiet and try and forget about it? While honesty is the best policy, and if you have serious concerns you should definitely confront him, but before you ask him, check him against these top ten signs he’s gay, and see how he scores...
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1. Bathroom Rituals...
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While it might be stereotypical, it’s often true! Watch how meticulous he is with his grooming, and see what products he owns. While it’s good that he makes an effort, if he takes two hours to get ready he’s taken it a bit far! If he’s got more products than you and a huger shoe collection, that’s a big hint too!
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It's all in his styling choices! Obsessing over the latest fashion trends might be his thing—if his magazines are brimming with runway shows rather than sports recaps, take note. And it's one thing to be tidy, but if he's ironing his jeans and aligning his shirts by color in the closet, he's showing a level of meticulousness that's worth pondering. Let's not forget, an absolute tell-tale sign is his reaction to your outfits—sarcastic remarks might just be playful banter, but if he's providing fashion advice with the expertise of a seasoned stylist... it's an eyebrow-raiser for sure!
It can be challenging to determine someone's sexual orientation, but if he often enjoys romantic or physical relationships with other men, that can be a sign he's gay.
No, taking care of one's appearance is common among people of all sexual orientations. Being well-groomed doesn't necessarily mean he's gay.
Not necessarily. People sometimes feel comfortable with friends of any gender, regardless of their sexual orientation.
No, interests in sports are not related to someone's sexual orientation. Everyone has different tastes regardless of being gay or straight.
No, voice pitch is not a reliable indicator of someone's sexual orientation.
Enjoying fashion or the arts is simply a personal interest and does not indicate someone's sexual orientation.
No, not having a girlfriend can be due to many reasons, and it's not an indicator that someone is gay.
Yes, the only conclusive way to know if he's gay is if he openly tells you about his sexual orientation.
Mannerisms vary from person to person and are not reliable indicators of sexual orientation.
Not necessarily. There could be various reasons for his lack of interest unrelated to sexual orientation.
2. His Idols...
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Gay men often idolize people who have elaborate, over the top lifestyles. I’ve never met a gay man who hasn’t loved Cher, Whitney Houston and Paul O’Grady! If your man loves divas, or watching famous “out” men such as Graham Norton, he might be gay.
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Growing up, many gay men find inspiration in stars who embody confidence and self-acceptance. It's not just about the glamorous lifestyles; these figures often represent freedom and authenticity. Madonna and Lady Gaga, for instance, are more than entertainers. They are symbols of self-expression and resilience. If your guy has a special admiration for such icons, it could be more than just a taste for pop culture. These stars often carry a deeper meaning for the LGBTQ+ community, reflecting ideals of living one's truth boldly and unapologetically.
It can be challenging to determine someone's sexual orientation, but if he often enjoys romantic or physical relationships with other men, that can be a sign he's gay.
No, taking care of one's appearance is common among people of all sexual orientations. Being well-groomed doesn't necessarily mean he's gay.
Not necessarily. People sometimes feel comfortable with friends of any gender, regardless of their sexual orientation.
No, interests in sports are not related to someone's sexual orientation. Everyone has different tastes regardless of being gay or straight.
No, voice pitch is not a reliable indicator of someone's sexual orientation.
Enjoying fashion or the arts is simply a personal interest and does not indicate someone's sexual orientation.
No, not having a girlfriend can be due to many reasons, and it's not an indicator that someone is gay.
Yes, the only conclusive way to know if he's gay is if he openly tells you about his sexual orientation.
Mannerisms vary from person to person and are not reliable indicators of sexual orientation.
Not necessarily. There could be various reasons for his lack of interest unrelated to sexual orientation.
3. His Favorite TV Shows
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Again, this is a stereotype that’s always proven true for me! Gay men often love watching stereotypical “female” programmes, such as beauty pageants, that reinforce the importance of beauty and glamour. He might also love over the top makeover shows, and big award shows such as the Grammys.
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Absolutely, Project Runway and RuPaul's Drag Race are practically staples! The drama, the fashion, the flair—it's all there and often beloved. Don't forget the sitcoms with strong LGBTQ+ characters or unapologetically gay icons. Shows like Will & Grace and Queer Eye provide not only entertainment but also a sense of identity and community. It's about the love for narratives that embrace diversity and vibrant characters who are unafraid to be themselves. And it's not just about the content; it’s the camaraderie when watching with friends that really seals the deal.
It can be challenging to determine someone's sexual orientation, but if he often enjoys romantic or physical relationships with other men, that can be a sign he's gay.
No, taking care of one's appearance is common among people of all sexual orientations. Being well-groomed doesn't necessarily mean he's gay.
Not necessarily. People sometimes feel comfortable with friends of any gender, regardless of their sexual orientation.
No, interests in sports are not related to someone's sexual orientation. Everyone has different tastes regardless of being gay or straight.
No, voice pitch is not a reliable indicator of someone's sexual orientation.
Enjoying fashion or the arts is simply a personal interest and does not indicate someone's sexual orientation.
No, not having a girlfriend can be due to many reasons, and it's not an indicator that someone is gay.
Yes, the only conclusive way to know if he's gay is if he openly tells you about his sexual orientation.
Mannerisms vary from person to person and are not reliable indicators of sexual orientation.
Not necessarily. There could be various reasons for his lack of interest unrelated to sexual orientation.
4. His Eyes...
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Who does he look at when you are out? Do his eyes jump from man to man, does he focus on hot men or does he not look at anyone at all? Like it or not, men have wandering eyes but a straight man will look at other women, even subconsciously. If he makes more eye contact with men, he’s probably more interested in them...
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In addition to his eyes, there are other signs that may indicate a man is gay. For example, his body language may be more expressive when around men than women. He may also have a more flamboyant style of dress, or a preference for colors and patterns that are traditionally associated with gay culture. He may also prefer activities that are traditionally associated with gay culture, such as going to gay bars, attending LGBT pride parades, and participating in LGBT-related events.
Another sign that a man may be gay is if he has a lot of gay friends or if he talks often about his gay friends. He may also seem to be more comfortable talking about gay issues than about straight issues. Additionally, he may have a more open attitude toward gay people than other people his age.
Of course, none of these signs necessarily mean that a man is gay. However, if you are concerned that a man may be gay, it is important to pay attention to his behavior and the way he interacts with others. It is also important to remember that being gay is not something to be ashamed of or to hide. If you are concerned about a man's sexuality, it is important to talk to him about it in a respectful and understanding way.
It can be challenging to determine someone's sexual orientation, but if he often enjoys romantic or physical relationships with other men, that can be a sign he's gay.
No, taking care of one's appearance is common among people of all sexual orientations. Being well-groomed doesn't necessarily mean he's gay.
Not necessarily. People sometimes feel comfortable with friends of any gender, regardless of their sexual orientation.
No, interests in sports are not related to someone's sexual orientation. Everyone has different tastes regardless of being gay or straight.
No, voice pitch is not a reliable indicator of someone's sexual orientation.
Enjoying fashion or the arts is simply a personal interest and does not indicate someone's sexual orientation.
No, not having a girlfriend can be due to many reasons, and it's not an indicator that someone is gay.
Yes, the only conclusive way to know if he's gay is if he openly tells you about his sexual orientation.
Mannerisms vary from person to person and are not reliable indicators of sexual orientation.
Not necessarily. There could be various reasons for his lack of interest unrelated to sexual orientation.
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5. His Toilet Habits...
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Gay men who haven’t yet “come out” often feel uncomfortable in public toilets, and either don’t go or use the toilet rather than the urinals. If he refuses to go to the toilet in public and instead wants to go home, it might hint to him not being comfortable in his sexuality. Remember, though, that some people are really only comfortable using their own toilet.
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The article is discussing potential signs that someone might be gay. One of the signs discussed is his toilet habits. It is suggested that gay men who have not yet come out might feel uncomfortable in public toilets and avoid using them. This could be an indication of discomfort with their sexuality. However, it is important to remember that some people just feel more comfortable using their own toilet. It is important to be aware of the signs of someone being uncomfortable with their sexuality, but it is also important to not jump to conclusions.
It can be challenging to determine someone's sexual orientation, but if he often enjoys romantic or physical relationships with other men, that can be a sign he's gay.
No, taking care of one's appearance is common among people of all sexual orientations. Being well-groomed doesn't necessarily mean he's gay.
Not necessarily. People sometimes feel comfortable with friends of any gender, regardless of their sexual orientation.
No, interests in sports are not related to someone's sexual orientation. Everyone has different tastes regardless of being gay or straight.
No, voice pitch is not a reliable indicator of someone's sexual orientation.
Enjoying fashion or the arts is simply a personal interest and does not indicate someone's sexual orientation.
No, not having a girlfriend can be due to many reasons, and it's not an indicator that someone is gay.
Yes, the only conclusive way to know if he's gay is if he openly tells you about his sexual orientation.
Mannerisms vary from person to person and are not reliable indicators of sexual orientation.
Not necessarily. There could be various reasons for his lack of interest unrelated to sexual orientation.
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6. His View...
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Most straight men cannot understand gays. While this doesn’t mean they are homophobic, they just cannot understand why a man would choose other men over women. If your boyfriend regularly talks about how gay men had a hard fight and should be accepted, or quotes gay men or Oprah, he might be trying to justify his sexuality.
It can be challenging to determine someone's sexual orientation, but if he often enjoys romantic or physical relationships with other men, that can be a sign he's gay.
No, taking care of one's appearance is common among people of all sexual orientations. Being well-groomed doesn't necessarily mean he's gay.
Not necessarily. People sometimes feel comfortable with friends of any gender, regardless of their sexual orientation.
No, interests in sports are not related to someone's sexual orientation. Everyone has different tastes regardless of being gay or straight.
No, voice pitch is not a reliable indicator of someone's sexual orientation.
Enjoying fashion or the arts is simply a personal interest and does not indicate someone's sexual orientation.
No, not having a girlfriend can be due to many reasons, and it's not an indicator that someone is gay.
Yes, the only conclusive way to know if he's gay is if he openly tells you about his sexual orientation.
Mannerisms vary from person to person and are not reliable indicators of sexual orientation.
Not necessarily. There could be various reasons for his lack of interest unrelated to sexual orientation.
7. His Gaming...
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Gay men will often pick a female character in a game, or choose a very hunky man. The reason for this is unknown, but it is psychologically proven to be correct! A study shows that gay men almost always chose to play as Storm, while straight men chose from a range of men. So watch his gaming habits and see what charcater he picks as his avatar.
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It's fascinating to observe the choices made in character selection, with personal representation in virtual worlds sometimes being a mirror into the inner self. Whether it's the allure of a powerful female presence or the allure of a muscular male protagonist, these selections can be telling. It's all about comfort and preference when someone immerses in a gaming universe. The choice might reflect aspirations, desires, or even an ideal self-image. Just remember, gaming can be an expressive space, unbound by the strictures of the real world.
It can be challenging to determine someone's sexual orientation, but if he often enjoys romantic or physical relationships with other men, that can be a sign he's gay.
No, taking care of one's appearance is common among people of all sexual orientations. Being well-groomed doesn't necessarily mean he's gay.
Not necessarily. People sometimes feel comfortable with friends of any gender, regardless of their sexual orientation.
No, interests in sports are not related to someone's sexual orientation. Everyone has different tastes regardless of being gay or straight.
No, voice pitch is not a reliable indicator of someone's sexual orientation.
Enjoying fashion or the arts is simply a personal interest and does not indicate someone's sexual orientation.
No, not having a girlfriend can be due to many reasons, and it's not an indicator that someone is gay.
Yes, the only conclusive way to know if he's gay is if he openly tells you about his sexual orientation.
Mannerisms vary from person to person and are not reliable indicators of sexual orientation.
Not necessarily. There could be various reasons for his lack of interest unrelated to sexual orientation.
8. Compliments...
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Listen for the way he compliments you. Does he tell you that you look beautiful, or tell you that your jacket goes great with thoseskinny jeans and you should finish the look with diamante boots and pink nail varnish? Gay men are often very fashionable, so see how clued up he is.
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Pay attention to the specifics of his compliments. If he has an eye for detail and comments on the intricacies of your outfit or makeup—like how the shade of your lipstick perfectly matches your shoes—that might be a hint. It's all about the way he notices things; gay men might have a heightened sense of style and aesthetics. Sure, many straight men are fashion-savvy too, but if his critiques are consistently keen and come with spot-on fashion advice, you might be onto something. Remember, it's not just about fashion—it's the particularity and insight behind the compliments that could be telling.
It can be challenging to determine someone's sexual orientation, but if he often enjoys romantic or physical relationships with other men, that can be a sign he's gay.
No, taking care of one's appearance is common among people of all sexual orientations. Being well-groomed doesn't necessarily mean he's gay.
Not necessarily. People sometimes feel comfortable with friends of any gender, regardless of their sexual orientation.
No, interests in sports are not related to someone's sexual orientation. Everyone has different tastes regardless of being gay or straight.
No, voice pitch is not a reliable indicator of someone's sexual orientation.
Enjoying fashion or the arts is simply a personal interest and does not indicate someone's sexual orientation.
No, not having a girlfriend can be due to many reasons, and it's not an indicator that someone is gay.
Yes, the only conclusive way to know if he's gay is if he openly tells you about his sexual orientation.
Mannerisms vary from person to person and are not reliable indicators of sexual orientation.
Not necessarily. There could be various reasons for his lack of interest unrelated to sexual orientation.
9. His Profile...
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Is his MySpace full of men he doesn’t know? Does he have a secret online profile? Social networking sites are often the place men “in the closet” let themselves go a little, and be themselves. So they can offer big hints as to what he’s really like! It’s an even bigger hint if his new friends have particularly revealing or sexy pictures.
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If you're noticing that his social media accounts are peppered with likes and comments from unfamiliar guys with whom he seems to have a close connection, it might be a clue. On platforms like Instagram or Facebook, he could be following a multitude of male fashion icons, gay influencers, or LGBT-related pages. It's worth paying attention to the kinds of communities and groups he's interested in, as these digital footprints can sometimes signal his personal interests more transparently than he might do in real life.
It can be challenging to determine someone's sexual orientation, but if he often enjoys romantic or physical relationships with other men, that can be a sign he's gay.
No, taking care of one's appearance is common among people of all sexual orientations. Being well-groomed doesn't necessarily mean he's gay.
Not necessarily. People sometimes feel comfortable with friends of any gender, regardless of their sexual orientation.
No, interests in sports are not related to someone's sexual orientation. Everyone has different tastes regardless of being gay or straight.
No, voice pitch is not a reliable indicator of someone's sexual orientation.
Enjoying fashion or the arts is simply a personal interest and does not indicate someone's sexual orientation.
No, not having a girlfriend can be due to many reasons, and it's not an indicator that someone is gay.
Yes, the only conclusive way to know if he's gay is if he openly tells you about his sexual orientation.
Mannerisms vary from person to person and are not reliable indicators of sexual orientation.
Not necessarily. There could be various reasons for his lack of interest unrelated to sexual orientation.
10. He Hates Gays...
He might display an over the top rage at gays. This is a classic reaction to prevent people from guessing he is gay. As the homage goes, the greatest homophobe is the homosexual! It’s worth bearing in mind that some men actually cannot stand gays, however, and it isn’t always a sign of trouble.
If you still think he may be gay, it’s time to sit down and talk to him. Remember that he might be feeling confused, and that however hurt you feel, there’s a reason why you love him and you shouldn’t use his sexuality to hurt him. He won’t have been trying to hurt you, and probably honestly thought he could “change.” Be respectful, and calm, during the talk. Have you got a tip for finding out if he’s gay? Please let me know!
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Kn: I'm sorry but that list is BULLSH*T. I am gay and none of those points (except my eyes following dudes) is true. I don't have pile of cosmetics, I don't groom for hours and I certainly have no idea which shoes pair well with skinny jeans. Also, when I was still in the closet I didn't argue strongly "for" nor "against" LGBT. And I had even a girl for a year and had sex with no problems. She had no idea. Most of features described in here apply for a subgroup of gays, most effeminate and bent - but those are unlikely to have ever a girlfriend so it misses the point. Then there are many gay men like me, that you won't recognize easily.
Krystal: One more thing: I tried having a caring, patient conversation w/my boyfriend & it was just his constant denial of being gay or bi. He refused to give me a reason as to why he was texting men..said that everyone has secrets & I didn't need to know all of his. That's not a healthy way to look at a relationship!
John: Hey im a man just so you know the public bathroom is the best place to pick up a dude on the Down low
Kyrina: This list is a confusing mess of paranoid stereotypes and just oddness. 1. I'm pretty sure the whole term "metrosexual" came out specifically due to men like this. 2. Clearly, straight men are scared of gay men celebrities. *rolls eyes* 3. I generally worry about anyone who watches "female" programming (including women) so I'm unable to comment. 4. I think this one might be the only thing on the list that makes sense. If he's lusting at men, he might be at least bi. However, that's the thing. He might be bi. Bisexuals do exist and I resent the idea that one is either straight or gay, with no other options. 5. I know a lot of women like this. 6. Now this is just insulting. Men who care about gay rights are clearly gay? Maybe they have gay friends who they have seen have troubles or maybe they're just actually compassionate human beings. 7. Gamers often like to experience the game from a different character than usual. And some guys pick female avatars in games because other players give them more or because they have to stare at their character's asses for hours at a time... 8. *facepalm* Are we living in a word of stereotypes here? 9. That might actually make sense in some odd way. 10. Even if that's not a sign he's gay, that is a sign he may be a jerk. Dating homophobes should never be done.
Meme: Found this thread while searching for answers and decided to share my experience. I have been dating a guy for 2 years. My boyfriend goes into another room to get dressed or just to tuck in his shirt. When he takes a shower, he always closes the door before he taking his clothes off and after his shower he puts on clothes before coming out of the bathroom. I have never seen him naked nor has he ever stayed in the room long enough to see me naked. He keeps his eyes closed when I'm giving him oral sex, but loses his erection as soon as I get on top. The first couple of times we had sex he motioned me to stop talking dirty and stop making noises. He never touches me and we rarely kiss passionately. I have to tell him to keep the light on in the bedroom so I can use the butt plug on him which he loves. He will allow me to use this sex toy on him 3 times times in one night, but on the rare occasion we have straight sex he's good for one time only. He puts his arm around my waist when his family or friends are around. I looked at his browsing history several months ago and saw where he had visited craigslist. When I asked about it he said that he was searching for golf buddies. He told me a story about how much fun he and his ex wife had at a bar that they went to not realizing that it was a gay bar. When I first met him he told me about a former brother-in-law who made a move on him. He also mentioned other men who have made a move on him at bars. I see him texting or typing but when I ask who he is chatting with he says he was deleting unwanted emails When men make advances toward me my boyfriend doesn't say anything. Men have handed me their phone numbers and it doesn't seem to have any affect on him. He won't ask questions nor does he show any interest in what the other guy said to me. On youtube I searched grooming for men and the next day he went out and bought himself his own eyebrow pencil, mascara and an eyelash curler. He told me that before me he had been in a two year relationship with a woman whom he never kissed or had sex with. I didn't believe him then but I do now. He has no male friends and relates better with women. He wants me to see him crane his neck when a busty blond walks by. His yearning facial expression looks so fake that he can't fool anyone. BUT when he thinks I'm not paying attention, he glances at handsome men and always looks at a man's crotch. His eyes don't follow the man but with his peripheral vision he keeps an eye on where they are then discreetly glances in that direction. He supports same sex marriages and gay rights. He has commented that he would like to see the day in which gay men can walk side by side without having people point at them. One day I stated that gay men risk getting HIV because they don't wear condoms when they have sex with strangers and I was taken aback by how quickly he responded, "Yes they do!!" I said not always and he repeated, "Yes they do!!"
Anonymous: So, I'm in high school an I've liked this guy for a while now and 3 people that went to school with him before I moved to the high school I'm in now have said that he's gay. That he actually told them. Some might say I should just ask, but I just can't seem to bring myself to it. Any tips!?
Tavia: Great article I really didn't know that if he refuses to go to a public toilet could mean such a thing :)
lisa: my husine dont have sex with me gos down on me
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